The Art of Seduction

Seduction is a specialised form of persuasion that makes use of a man’s weaknesses such as (addiction to flattery, pride) to get what you want.

Seduction is one of the most important skills a woman should possess. If you are blessed with good looks, you have an obvious advantage over other women. However, not all good-looking women know what to do to make a guy fall head over heels in love with you. Have you ever wondered why some women are average looking but have dozens of men wooing them? You do not need to be a drop dead gorgeous beauty to be able to flirt well. To make a man fall deeply in love and be hooked on you, you need to be feminine, fascinating, mysterious and confident.

Cleopatra, the ancient Egyptian Queen was the epitome of mystery, intrigue and feminity. In order to seduce Julius Caesar, she wrapped herself in a bale of rags and presented herself to Caesar. Caesar was so captivated with her that he could not get her of his mind.

How to get in the mood for seduction

-Look at nice pictures of yourself, especially those that show your sensuality

-Practise in front of the mirror. Find a role model and model yourself after her.

-Learn how to walk and move like her. The trick is to practise until you are perfect.

-Wear something sexy and hot to mask your inner insecurities. Remember to wear a thong and not a Granny’s underwear. Sexy lingerie makes a woman feel sexy instantly.

-Dance to hot music in front of the mirror. Learn to sway your hips suggestively like Shakira

-Watch shows like America’s Top model and learn how to strut your stuff like top models.

-Indulge yourself. Go for a pampering spa treatment, a manicure or pedicure you’ll be surprised how sensual you feel instantly.

-Use the right makeup to accentuate your features and to create the mood. Experiment with different colours until you find a look that suits you.

-Snack on chocolates. Chocolates give you a high and they are also a natural aphrodisiac. 

The Pussycat Walk

The Pussycat Walk is the most sensual and seductive walk.

-Walk one foot directly in front of the other

-Hold your head up high and don’t look down unless you absolutely need to

-Keep your arms straight and your chest out.

-Keep cool and composed and walk slowly.

-It’s good to practise walking in front of a full-length mirror. Pay attention to the movement of your hips, shoulders and legs. Keep your shoulders straight, do not slouch and loosen your arms and hips. Swivel your hips in a figure of eight motion like a sexy belly dancer. 

Imagine an invisible line painted on the ground. Start walking, one leg in front of the other. Ensure your posture is straight. This gives the feeling of confidence. Keep your arms loose and relaxed when you walk. Remember to keep your gaze straight. Do not look down at your feet or look up at the sky. 

Try to practise walking with stilettos. They draw attention to your legs, hips and butt and make you look irresistible.

The Power of the Body Language

Body language is the language of seduction. It refers to gestures, postures, and facial expressions by which a person manifests various physical, mental, or emotional states and communicates non verbally with others. Your body language also communicates your personal branding.

The movement of your body, the tone of your voice, your facial expressions, the speed of your speech, the way you dress and even how you stand or sit send messages far more convincingly than any words spoken. 

Most people have no idea how they are being perceived by others. They may believe that they do, but actually they don’t and this can be detrimental when they are on a date. A high percentage of people unintentionally convey the opposite messages of what they intend to portray without realising that they are doing it. Some people feel that it is wrong to consciously alter your body language to create a positive first impression. There is nothing wrong with being aware of yourself and changing your gestures to convey a positive first impression. The sooner you master the art of using the right body language, the further you can go in your relationship.

10 Gestures that Turn Men OFF

-Looking down or avoiding eye contact (shows lack of self confidence)

-Biting nails (shows nervousness)

-Shaking your legs (shows boredom)

-Folding arms (shows arrogance)

-Putting your hands in your pocket (shows defensiveness and also makes yourself seem unavailable)

-Picking your nose (shows lack of hygiene)

-Raising your eyebrows incredulously (shows you don’t trust what your date says)

-Keeping your hands in your pocket (shows defensiveness)

-Slouching (shows laziness)

How to get noticed?

Seduction begins the minute you enter the room. When you make an entrance, whether you are dramatic, confident, subtle, shy or conscious, you’re speaking volumes even without saying a word.

It is crucial to create a memorable and lasting first impression. Opening conversations and first impressions are potential opportunities that can’t be wasted. Within the first thirty seconds, your prospects (dream guys) will suss you out and decide whether you a catch too. 

Your objective must be clear. Ensure that your body language gives your prospects the right impression. How you feel is subconsciously conveyed to others through your body language – the way you place your arms, the way you stand, the way you hold a drink in your hands, the way you eat and the way you walk. 

Remember, you want to come across as a hot babe and not a desperate woman who can’t wait to get laid. When you learn a few, essential flirting tricks, sending the right message through your body language is as easy as changing your dress.

How to get the man you like to approach you?

Men are captivated by confident, charismatic and charming women. To get your dream guy to approach you, try one of these tactics:

Look approachable

Men tend to feel comfortable approaching someone who looks friendly and approachable. If you are good looking, it is even more important for you to try to be amicable. Men sometimes prefer to approach a woman who is ordinary looking rather than beautiful as ordinary looking people are less likely to reject their advances.

Give the Green Light

If you want someone to approach you, you have to look directly at the person, smile and turn your body towards them. Toss your hair over your shoulders or away from your face. Tilt your pelvis a little while standing. These obvious signals indicate that you are open to being approached.

Have a relaxed body language

Women with a relaxed body language are likely to get the attention of more men. Stand with your arms uncrossed and hanging loosely by the side. Do not stand with folded arms or use your bag or drink as a shield.

The Opening Lines

Once you’ve caught his attention, he’s likely to come forward to talk to you.

Learn to deliver opening lines that will keep him interested.

-Exchange names

Feel free to reinvent your name to make it sound special.

-Compliment him on his sense of style, humour. All men love to be complimented.

-Ask him where he’s from.

-Ask him about his profession. If he’s good looking, ask him if he is an actor.

-Encourage him to open up and agree with him when he shares something personal. Stay away from heavy topics such as politics or religion.

-Ask him where is girlfriend his. This will give you some information about him, whether he is attached or married.

Flirting is the number one way to get what you desire, whether it’s a new friend or a potential partner. To hone your flirting skills to the finest, you may want to communicate your thoughts clearly and effectively. You want to be able to keep your prospect spellbound without having to try too hard. Delivery of the opening lines is important. It is not what you say, but how you say it. Flirting requires confidence. Once you believe you are a catch, it will show in your body language.

Remember, the rule is to being confident, charming and alluring. Once you exude confidence, men will be enraptured by you. You do not even need to do anything special. They will naturally flock to you. 

With the above tips, you will be able to snag your ideal guy very soon. Good Luck!